Win Win Win – going for the infinite game

Holding the space for a win win win and the infinite game is a way of being in life. To sincerely come from the place of triple win we must have transcended our need to win over someone or something. From the outset, this principle of the triple win demands that we stay in the conversation until all three parties … Read More

Attended to

Relationships do not break down in one fell swoop. Just as atrocities do not start large. The signs are evident, but for want of attention. We neglect to attend to the things that we want the most. This is how we sabotage. We shut down the small whispers that tug at our consciousness in the dark hours. The odd feeling … Read More

How to say NO – rule #6 have it be an absolute Yes!

To say an absolute Yes to something or someone is not an experience to be taken lightly. When I say a Yes, I need to be sure that every part of my body, mind, spirit, soul..is aligned. That there is not one corner, or cell, or mote of dust within me that says no. If there is even a shadow, … Read More

Speak the Truth, walking through the 7 steps

In this webinar I walk Mark through the 7 Steps of Speak the Truth. (ebook available for purchase for $10) Speak the Truth is one module of the two day Dare to Care Workshop. How to speak the radical truth with compassion. (Do I care more about you than what you think of me?) If you have an important conversation … Read More

Providing Context – a fundamental communication skill

Context – Simple version. The container that holds the text. But we get this wrong so many times, and the result…misunderstanding, broken hearts, polarisation, war, death… Nothing ever occurs in isolation. There is always a container that holds the text. The story. The reason why. The source code. Context. Truth is, if you do not provide your own context other … Read More

Conversation for Understanding – a tool to heal the war between us

The experience of being understood versus interpreted, is so compelling you can charge admission. B. Joseph Ane II The experience of being human is fraught with the opportunity for misunderstanding between people. No one persons world view is the same as the other. Our language and self concepts are so diverse. It is almost a surprise, given our differences, that … Read More

On building and maintaining respect, and what to do when it is lost

Great relationships are built on a foundation of respect. In magnificent relationships, respect grows by days, weeks and years. Respect is earned, and given. In any relationship of quality, respect is active, not passive. It requires an investment of time, love, care and courage. If I am not capable of granting everyone I meet the same level of respect, then … Read More