When is naivety a value worth holding?
ORIGIN mid 17th cent.: from French naïve, feminine of naïf, from Latin nativus ‘native, nature
Hard hearted comes from being broken down by life. Deceived, not trusting. Defensive.
If we do the ‘all in’ cost accounting for taking the stand of protectionism, the cost of the legals, time, energy, and then the emotional costs of fear, anxiety, sleeplessness, not to mention the cost to our relationships for becoming increasingly suspicious, mistrustful, and closed, then does the math of protection really add up?
Call me stupid, but I prefer to live a life where I meet people from a place of openness and trust as the starting point. Oh I have been burned a few time, deceived a few times. But to shut my heart off, to build walls of protection, this is not how I want to live.
If you are doing business with someone who you don’t trust, why are you doing business with them in the first place? What is your real motivation? I would guess it has to do with working in a shadowy world where trust is not part of the equation.
Simply don’t work with people who you do not trust.
Or, as the saying goes, if you are going to swim with sharks, you better be a bloody shark. I prefer to swim with dolphins.
I believe, perhaps naively, that most people have good intentions. The skill of discernment is to receive the signals when someone does not have appropriate or aligned intentions. Occasionally you will get the master manipulator and spell caster who can bamboozle even the most discerning of us.
But to live behind iron clad walls of legal or emotional protection is not life. That is prison.