What did I expect? I expected I would be more successful, according to the ways we define success in our culture. Basically, that I would have more “stuff”. At the least a house, actually several, in a few exotic locations, probably a lot more money, even a relationship. I expected that from the outside view I would fit all the categories of a successful self-made woman. I would be famous and wealthy.
Unfortunately our society has slipped into ever increasing levels of entitlement. The ~I deserve~ society. Or, ~I am owed~. Or, pure and simple, ~give me!~. This approach is really a “dis-ease” state, breaking the natural law of dynamic equilibrium, where the equation is strongly pitched to the take side, with almost complete neglect of the give side.
Don’t get caught up in other people’s race. Wow! I do this so very well in running, and have done this so very badly in my life. I have spent too much time in comparison. Look what this person is doing, how well they are going. What is wrong with me? What am I doing wrong? BIG lesson here. Again, don’t ignore what others are doing, learn from them, but if you have done all the work, then trust yourself more. A lot more.
The integral leader as a student would be challenged, informed, taught to think creativity, openly, expansively, to ask great questions, to be unafraid to not know the answers, be able to stand in humility, and authority, to inspire through their own being, to dance with change, hold their nerve, have great compassion, take responsibility, acknowledge their shadow and weaknesses, speak with clarity and truth, and live a life that reflects their deepest values. They would represent the essence of a positive deviant.
We currently live in a very Orange, Post Modern world. (In Integral Theory – orange is the stage of development that is about achievement, success, status, having the right house, the right car, kids at the right schools, setting and meeting goals. It is the home of modern science, and measurement of all things. It is a very rational world.) … Read More
We all have times when out thinking, emotions, feelings and life in general are not moving the way we would like. We may be in a down spiral of negative thoughts, our emotions may be frayed, and life might feel stuck, or horrible. We may suffer from anxiety or depression. It is in these times that we need an Emergency … Read More
As a student of R.Buckminster Fuller, I have found his core foundation of self disciplines very inspiring. (See Critical Path, Chapter 4.) Late last year I resolved to form my own set. I will be clear, this is not the first time I have created a list – or code – to live by. The distinction is that this is … Read More
Emerge through Emergency– the words are my constant companions of late, flickering thoughts trying to chase fear away. (The following is an extract with additions from a letter to a friend written on Saturday 22nd November 2008.) My daughter Nat’s very last ever school function was last night and it has been a very emotional week for both of us. … Read More
If you are like most people, you are feeling the earth shifting under your feet, unsure about your next step and whether it will land on solid ground. Having a sense of security is becoming an elusive memory. Uncertainty rules the day. Even if you are in a very secure situation, you cannot but help feel the whisper of the … Read More
What is the Future of Business? Well, since I am not a psychic nor of divine providence, I, like you, can only guess. However, there are some clear writings on the multitude of walls around the world. Here are some of the writings I am seeing clearly written. 1. BIG changes are in place. We are not rearranging the deck … Read More