The cost of not having the conversation

*the longer you delay, the bigger the issue becomes, the more likely the conversation when had will be explosive. I have seen the unspoken be carried for decades. Imagine living decades with the weight of not speaking up as part of your every day? *the energetic stagnation of blocking the flow of words and keeping them trapped inside will poison … Read More

Where art thou respect? Lost, needing to be found | Finding respect

We do not have to agree with someone, even like them. But are we able to respect them? Are we able to respect that they took a stand? Risked something? Spoke while others remained silent? Is there something we can find in another that we are able to respect? Respect means to look again. ORIGIN late Middle English: from Latin … Read More

Exile – invite the exiles home – live whole

I remember, like most parents, the first time I looked into my new born daughters eyes. I was not prepared, like most parents, for the overwhelming feelings of love. I was also stunned by the return look my daughter gave me. It was long, it was deep, and it seemed to say to me…“I know everything. I am the wise. … Read More

The lost years – Maybe our stories are not real

  Maybe the story you have been telling yourself about how your Boss, the Board, or your spouse’s mother doesn’t like you or the job your are doing…is not real? Maybe you are spending your days and nights worrying about something that doesn’t exist? All that time and heart ache…for ghosts. Or not. Why not ask them? Sure, they may … Read More

Optional versus unavoidable suffering

No one is exempt. We all get to suffer. Money or status or success won’t buy you a free pass from suffering. But how much of our suffering is by our choice and how much is not? I love this question. It invites deep contemplation and rich dialogue. Here is how I distinguish optional suffering from unavoidable suffering. Unavoidable suffering … Read More

Cultivating felt sense

Most people have walked into a room and felt the tension that exists when the people in the room have been fighting. This is felt even before your rational brain has had the chance to analyze the situation. Our reptilian brain senses danger and our body responds. The ability to tune into the very subtle nuances in the energetic space … Read More

Your saboteur and its role in leadership development

Get to know your saboteur. We all have one. That part of us that throws a shoe into the gear mechanism of our life. I have a friend who simply must have high drama around her. The drama carries the theme of legal battles. She lurches from one legal battle to another, major and minor. Another friend manages to attract … Read More

Lost souls, finding pathways, living purpose

Just imagine that our purpose is clearly carved into our being from the beginning. That there is no confusion. No lack of clarity. That the only confusion is the confusion of illusion that you do not know your purpose. That from the moment your were born the flame of clarity was present, but has been almost snuffed out by all … Read More

Taking Bold Action and Meeting the Critic and Bully

All most every human I have met has in front of them the choice between the path that calls them but is filled with uncertainty, risk and exposure, and the other path, the safe path. We are often faced with this choice every single day in some form or another. When we take the risky, exposing path then we face … Read More