Providing Context – a fundamental communication skill

Context – Simple version. The container that holds the text. But we get this wrong so many times, and the result…misunderstanding, broken hearts, polarisation, war, death… Nothing ever occurs in isolation. There is always a container that holds the text. The story. The reason why. The source code. Context. Truth is, if you do not provide your own context other … Read More

Clean Communication- the foundation of all great and enduring relationships | Clean Communication

Clean communication is at the very foundation of any integrous, generative relationship. Defining what clean communication is Clean Communication has no “negative charge” to it. There is no component of it that has any form of attack, shame, blame, upset, anger, manipulation, ridicule, disdain, lies or otherwise. Unclean communication may be consciously or unconsciously delivered. Consciously delivered unclean communication may … Read More

Conversation for Understanding – a tool to heal the war between us

The experience of being understood versus interpreted, is so compelling you can charge admission. B. Joseph Ane II The experience of being human is fraught with the opportunity for misunderstanding between people. No one persons world view is the same as the other. Our language and self concepts are so diverse. It is almost a surprise, given our differences, that … Read More

On building and maintaining respect, and what to do when it is lost

Great relationships are built on a foundation of respect. In magnificent relationships, respect grows by days, weeks and years. Respect is earned, and given. In any relationship of quality, respect is active, not passive. It requires an investment of time, love, care and courage. If I am not capable of granting everyone I meet the same level of respect, then … Read More

A series of beautiful moments

Life is a series of moments. On this morn this moment lasted but minutes. The pinks suddenly were there…and then gone, swallowed by endless greys. And a few hours later, after my run, sitting in my artisan coffee shop looking out across the Pacific, another moment. The wonderfully skilled barista, Tim, also an artist and musician, fetched his ukulele from … Read More