Clean Communication- the foundation of all great and enduring relationships

Clean communication is at the very foundation of any integrous, generative relationship. Defining what clean communication is Clean Communication has no “negative charge” to it. There is no component of it that has any form of attack, shame, blame, upset, anger, manipulation, ridicule, disdain, lies or otherwise. Unclean communication may be consciously or unconsciously delivered. Consciously delivered unclean communication may … Read More

Conversation for Understanding – a tool to heal the war between us

The experience of being understood versus interpreted, is so compelling you can charge admission. B. Joseph Ane II The experience of being human is fraught with the opportunity for misunderstanding between people. No one persons world view is the same as the other. Our language and self concepts are so diverse. It is almost a surprise, given our differences, that … Read More

On building and maintaining respect, and what to do when it is lost

Great relationships are built on a foundation of respect. In magnificent relationships, respect grows by days, weeks and years. Respect is earned, and given. In any relationship of quality, respect is active, not passive. It requires an investment of time, love, care and courage. If I am not capable of granting everyone I meet the same level of respect, then … Read More

A series of beautiful moments

Life is a series of moments. On this morn this moment lasted but minutes. The pinks suddenly were there…and then gone, swallowed by endless greys. And a few hours later, after my run, sitting in my artisan coffee shop looking out across the Pacific, another moment. The wonderfully skilled barista, Tim, also an artist and musician, fetched his ukulele from … Read More

The cost of not having the conversation

*the longer you delay, the bigger the issue becomes, the more likely the conversation when had will be explosive. I have seen the unspoken be carried for decades. Imagine living decades with the weight of not speaking up as part of your every day? *the energetic stagnation of blocking the flow of words and keeping them trapped inside will poison … Read More

Our addiction to having an enemy..to vengeance

Imagine this world for a moment…where enemies were the rare rare exception…? No enemy…no one person trying to get you…or no effort being spent trying to get another person. No trillions being spent on killingry. On some quasi protectionism…like the NSA’s urge to listen to everyone and everything…that this is supposed to make people ‘feel’ safe. No revenge. Imagine all … Read More

To sell or to invite, seduce or attract -marketing that honours sovereign choice

If we assume that people are sovereign beings, able to make their own choices, able to discern what is appropriate for them in this moment, then we will approach sales and marketing in a completely different way. Rather than sell, rather than use spin, seduction and clever tricks, we will invite participation. We will respect each individual and their ability … Read More